10 Things Players/Coaches Do Who Follow Their Dreams
Coaches and players who are true to their purpose and are really successful didn’t always get there because they had the financial means to do so or were just lucky enough to have been brought up in a confidence-boosting environment. There are actually a few common things that have helped them get to where they are. The best part is that these are habits that any players or coach can attain.
1. They see challenges as opportunities.
Most coaches and players interpret fears and uncomfortable situations as obstacles and tend to run away from them. True competitors who live their purpose successfully have developed the capacity to see fear as a sign of what they really need to go for and put all their courage and energy into it. It was best told by Coach Assaiante in his book Run to the Roar
2. They see life as a game.
Having this vision of life opens up space for growth and creativity instead of limitation. This also cultivates qualities of resilience; problem solving and confidence that helps them take risks to get to the next big place. If you lose today you know that there is going to be another inning of life to play.
3. Living the life they want is the only option.
They’re so committed to making their dreams a reality that they banish any possibility of a backup plan whatsoever from their mind. Great athletes don’t think things like, “If it doesn’t work, I’ll just go get a job.” They have no Plan B. For more check out the interview with Will Smith.
4. They always speak their truth.
They’re able to speak it because they make a conscious effort to connect to their truest desires, their inner voice, and their spirituality without fear of judgment. In competition there is no time to be self-conscious. Go out and be true to yourself and COMPETE! This connection is typically fostered through meditation, journaling, being mentored and being surrounded by like minded-people. The truth shall set you free.
5. They aren’t just dreamers: they act on their desires.
Instead of getting stuck in their dreams, they snap right into action, no matter what it takes. No matter how big or small the first action is they get moving. Whether it’s quitting a job, getting out of a relationship that holds them back, investing in themselves or moving to a new location, they have the courage to do it. They do this by listening to, and then acting on, their intuition. I learned from Dr. Rob Gilbert one of my favorite quotes, “Thoughts determine what you want, actions determine what you get!”
6. They expect and know that they deserve the best.
They expect that what they want is going to happen as if it were an inner-knowing. They expect and feel they deserve to earn well, do what they love, serve others using their gifts. The secret is that they still expect the best even when they don’t have all the answers as to how it’s going to happen. The best players and coaches can create the future through their actions in the present moment. They A.C.T. as if…
7. They have no fear or guilt when asking for what they want.
Because they’re so connected to their passions, they aren’t afraid to ask for what they want. The best coaches I know are the ones that are emailing, calling, texting other great coaches for good solid information. In fact, they understand that their success depends on others, so asking for what they want is part of the deal. They set their boundaries and express their needs without fear, guilt or shame. Best of all, this is a trait that earns them respect from others.
8. They create their own rules.
They create their own rules instead of fitting into society’s norms. They make decisions from a place of what they want to have instead of what they think they can have. This gives them the freedom to design their destiny.
9. They’ve learned to be comfortable being uncomfortable.
They don’t get stuck in having all the answers, making things perfect or trying to gain comfort by controlling everything. The best programs aspire for EXCELLENCE not PERFECTION. They’re aware that they’re not going to see the next step until they make the decision to move forward despite the discomfort. It is in the discomfort where true learning or growth takes place. If we do what we always did, we will get what we have always gotten.
10. They have teachers, mentors and role models.
Players and coaches who have come from great programs have a distinct advantage over others. Go back and look at the lineage of coaches that came from coaching under other great coaches. It is very interesting. They clearly understand that each time they’re getting ready to pursue their dreams all their limitations are going to come up to the surface so that they can let go of them. Having role models and mentors helps them quickly identify where they’re stuck so that they can immediately change their results. Don’t go on your journey alone. We are always better together.