14 Things to STOP Doing to Yourself as a Coach or Player
#1. Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot. Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth. Nothing more valuable than a friend who will celebrate joys with you but also be there in the tough times also.
#2. Stop running from your problems. – Face them head on. No, it won’t be easy and there are no guarantees. But there is one guarantee that if you do nothing, nothing will get better. There is no person in the world capable of flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them. We aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems. In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall. That’s the whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time. This is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.
#3. Stop trying to be someone you’re not. – One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you like everyone else. Someone will always be stronger, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be faster, but they will never be you. Coach and play the game as yourself.
#4. Stop trying to hold onto the past. – You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one. The last pitch is a past pitch. Accept that you can do nothing about it and have a forward thinking approach on and off the field.
#5. Stop being scared to make a mistake. – Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing. Every success has a trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading towards success. You end up regretting the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did. The worst mistake you can make is to be timid and not go all out for the things you want most. Fear + Doubt = You being F’D.
#6. Stop berating yourself for old mistakes. – We may make the wrong play or make the last out with the bases loaded, but no matter how things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us find strength if we choose to move forward. We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. Your past is not your potential. Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.
#7. Stop thinking you’re not ready. – Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises. Get out of your comfort zone. You are more prepared than you know. Taking the first step is often times the toughest one to changing.
#8. Stop trying to compete against everyone else. – Don’t worry about what others are doing better than you. Concentrate on beating your own records every day. Success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only. Fight boredom and frustration that the game will deal you on a daily basis. Compete against no one except the person in the mirror.
#9. Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself. – In the game of life or on the field curveballs are thrown for a reason – to shift your path in a direction that is meant for you. You may not see or understand everything the moment it happens, and it may be tough. But reflect back on those negative curveballs thrown at you in the past. You’ll often see that eventually they led you to a better place, person, state of mind, or situation. So smile! Breathe! Play it forward! Let everyone know that today you are a lot stronger than you were yesterday.
#10. Stop letting others bring you down to their level. – Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs. Surround yourself with people who will make you better.
#11. Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments. – Enjoy the little things, because one day you may look back and discover they were the big things. The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you. Take it all in: the grass, the smells of being at the ballpark, teammates, and all the little things that make softball and baseball such great games to be apart of. Know the hour-glass of athletics/coaching is always running and you never know when it will run out. Soak it up!
#12. Stop trying to make things perfect. – The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists, it rewards people who get things done. You will not make every play or get a hit every time. Stop acting like you will. NO SUCH THING AS PERFECT!!!!!! NO ONE BATS 1.0000!!!!
#13. Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen. – Focus on what you do want to happen. Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story. If you awake every morning with the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today, and you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re right. If you think you can you might, if you think can’t you’re right! Train yourself to think about what you want to happen instead of what you are trying to avoid.
#14. Stop being ungrateful. – No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life. Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs. Instead of thinking about what you’re missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing. Write down the things you are grateful for. The rich choose to think about things they are grateful for, the impoverished choose regret and complainant. Choose to focus on the riches of your life and this beautiful game!